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Post by gonzar65 on Oct 26, 2020 8:09:27 GMT -5
Hey guys so when my bestfriend and I first met we both fell in love with each other in december 2016 we are literally perfect for each other and we used to say it all the time we talked every hour of the day on Skype because i was in my school house for the marine corps and we always had a great time talking. Stayed up till 5am or 8 am sometimes talking.but then mid 2017 somethings started going down hill she claimed she wasn't in love with me anymore I got orders to be stationed in Japan. We stopped talked for a while then talked again but we weren't even friends at that point. Then early 2019 we started talking once again and we talked again for hours in end , she would stay up till 6 am in calfornia just to talk to me in Japan and it would be like 7pm for me I asked her if she has feelings for me she said she did but she didn't see me as a boyfriend because of how close we are. Then I finally came back to the states we hung out we started getting very sexual but didn't do it. This was in late 2019. But then in December 2019 I confessed to her that I was still in love with her and she didn't feel the same and it crushed me so we stopped talking for a bit then around may 2020 we started talking and now we talk all the time and again we stay talking until like 1 or 2 am. We actually just went to a drive in movie yesterday. She tells me sometimes that she has a date a certain day or she'll tell me about a date but say it was boring or she isn't gonna talk to him anymore maybe to make me jealous?? I have no idea. Then I tell her about how some girls hit on me and they actually do im not trying to make her jealous. And she'd say stuff like "oh but they weren't prettier than me right " in a "joking" voice. Or ill say how this girl i met was really awesome and she'll say again in a "joking " voice "but not more awesome than me" and so I still can't believe I have feelings for this amazing woman after 4 years. I dont know do you guys think she's into me at this point ? Or is she just playing with my feelings ?
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Post by Ask Anon on Oct 27, 2020 4:38:20 GMT -5
I don't know do you guys think she's into me at this point ? Or is she just playing with my feelings ? I don't think she's into you at this point, or that she is just playing with your feelings. I think you've just been super-friend-zoned. She's seen you as a friend for so long, it's just the way she thinks of you. She's been pretty consistent that she's not interested in 'a relationship': why she made that choice, a long time ago, only she knows, and I'd guess she'll never, ever tell you. But it ain't gonna happen. If it hurts that much, you'd be well advised to back off and gently get out. If you're into torture, hang in there. But know this: Every minute you spend with her, thinking about her, and wishing she was with you, is a minute that you won't find someone who will care for you, respect you, and want you. Move on. |
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Post by gonzar65 on Oct 27, 2020 4:47:13 GMT -5
I don't know do you guys think she's into me at this point ? Or is she just playing with my feelings ? I don't think she's into you at this point, or that she is just playing with your feelings. I think you've just been super-friend-zoned. She's seen you as a friend for so long, it's just the way she thinks of you. She's been pretty consistent that she's not interested in 'a relationship': why she made that choice, a long time ago, only she knows, and I'd guess she'll never, ever tell you. But it ain't gonna happen. If it hurts that much, you'd be well advised to back off and gently get out. If you're into torture, hang in there. But know this: Every minute you spend with her, thinking about her, and wishing she was with you, is a minute that you won't find someone who will care for you, respect you, and want you. Move on. I understand , I just don't understand why she gets flirty with me and she gets jealous of me talking about other girls. And we always talking about doing it. Like if I weren't interested in someone I wouldn't be doing all that. She'll also give me back rubs and ill give her some , we'll go to the beach in shin deep water and she'll hold my hand. I just don't get it anymore |
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Post by Ask Anon on Oct 28, 2020 3:37:17 GMT -5
I just don't get it anymore The Friend Zone has an element of 'dog in the manger'; she's genuinely very fond of you, I'm sure. And she doesn't want to lose that friendship, nor share it with anyone else. But she still only wants you as a friend. |
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Post by albvillegas98 on Dec 2, 2020 10:32:09 GMT -5
I think she only uses you to not be alone. I don't think she's really in love and if she's in love with you, She doesn't want to accept it. I think it is better that you only see her as a friend and try to find other people if they really are for each other and the moment will come when destiny brings them together. As long as they're just friends.
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