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Post by n3ll on Aug 16, 2020 1:45:33 GMT -5
I have a cousin who recently got out of prison, he’s a good guy. And everyone in my household loves him including me. But he asks so much of me . Rides 3 hours away at a drop of a hat no gas money is ever offered . He sleeps on my couch . We feed , house and even employ him. I have him a job at the liquor store I work at. Because he’s a felon the cops can come in my home at any time. He eats tons of food. I told him to save his money so he can get his own place as soon as possible but instead he spent his entire check in 3 days on idk even know what. He’s a good employee. And he’s an ok couch surfer. He does some chore when I ask him to. But now he wants to bring his daughter and dog here. He’s never offered me any money. I just can’t afford it. Yet I feel guilty as hell. Help!
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Post by Ask Anon on Aug 16, 2020 3:56:07 GMT -5
So tell him.
If he's the 'good guy' you claim he is, he'll understand. Won't he?
"Rides 3 hours away at a drop of a hat no gas money is ever offered" - at gunpoint, or do you have the option to say no? It sounds to me like he's a good guy when everyone treats him like royalty, but you are scared he'll stop being a good guy if you ever say no.
You need to think about this, decide on boundaries, and stick to them. Plus if you don't want his daughter and his dog, then tell him you don't want his daughter and his dog.
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Post by Gina99 on Aug 20, 2020 21:02:19 GMT -5
1Exactly how is he a good guy? 2You are 100% responsible for letting him use you 3 Guilty for what? Are you the reason he went to jail?
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