Post by cdalegirl on Dec 12, 2018 13:30:47 GMT -5
I have analyzed this situation over and over and I have come to the conclusion that maybe she just doesn't want to be my friend anymore. At one point, she was texting me, happy Easter, asking how things were, etc. Now for the last six months, especially, I am always the one to text first and when I do ask to hang out she is always bringing along someone else. It started with her mom, then her boyfriend, then her entire family (we were supposed to have dinner then she got engaged that day and invited her entire family). And typically, wherever she is, (at least with me), the boyfriend is there as well. In order to give her her wedding gift (a mini donkey which has been a lot of work and money) I have been texting her for weeks asking her to get together to surprise her. She has consistently been too busy. It just occurred to me that the original reason I asked her to get together was to talk to her about telling my dad about my sexual assault (which she is the only one who knows about it) and I still haven't been able to because we have not hung out just the two of us. I finally had to text her that I had something important to talk to her about hoping that would get her to my house to surprise her with the donkey, and of course, she is bringing her fiance again. She even asked if I was pregnant or moving, clearly grasping that this could be a private thing, and decided to bring him anyways. She does technically always ask if she can bring him, but it's after plans are made and I get the impression that if I say no, she would probably get upset. She doesn't want me involved with the wedding in any way. I have offered to help her get ready, she doesn't want bridesmaids, or even help decorating. Am I just not catching the hint? I should also note that I don't think this is just a honeymoon faze for the relationship because they have been together for awhile and this didn't happen when they were first together. And started happening before the engagement.
