Post by daffydo on Dec 19, 2017 14:42:42 GMT -5
My husband and I have been together 14 years and are generally very happy, but recently he has changed jobs and is very busy and stressed at work. He often works 12+ hour days and when he is home he's not really here - if he's not on his phone emailing clients he is staring into space obviously thinking about work. He never hears the kids when they talk to him. He is ALWAYS late home - I know if he says he'll be home at 7pm it will actually be 8.30. He has no energy left when he gets home and snaps at the kids. He never initiates sex anymore, sex is now 'sure, if you do all the work and I just lie here'.
We have talked many times about it and he always promises to start putting us first/be home earlier, it lasts a few days then something happens at work and its straight back to his old ways.
I appreciate him working hard for our family but it has taken over all our lives and I can feel myself loving him a little bit less with every week this goes on. I don't want to break up our family, but I can't keep living like this. Changing jobs isn't an option (he refuses). How do I get him to keep his promises and put us first when his job is so demanding?
We have talked many times about it and he always promises to start putting us first/be home earlier, it lasts a few days then something happens at work and its straight back to his old ways.
I appreciate him working hard for our family but it has taken over all our lives and I can feel myself loving him a little bit less with every week this goes on. I don't want to break up our family, but I can't keep living like this. Changing jobs isn't an option (he refuses). How do I get him to keep his promises and put us first when his job is so demanding?
