Post by amy123 on Dec 8, 2017 2:55:08 GMT -5
Me and my friend have been friends for a little over 3 years now. Over time we became very close and she used to always express how much she cares for me. When she was pregnant we used to spend almost every day together and i was there for her when she had her baby offering advice and helping out. When she went back to work she used to express how much she missed me after half a day of not seeing each other. Weekends had to include one day we would spend together. We started working on a project together where basically i was doing half the work for her for free. She on the other hand helped me find a freelance job. We had great chemistry. After some time of working on the project she became cranky and moody (which she sometimes is anyways) and I started to get bad vibes. When i expressed this to her she was completely shocked and said that im the most important person in her life and so on. Then after a few days of that incident she went completely wierd, like she didnt really want to spend as much time as before, just working on the project and then dissapearing. I tried to ignore the situation because when i had previously confronted her about how i was getting bad vibes i felt really foolish afterwards. But i couldnt shake off the feeling that something had changed, so I tried to distance myself from her a couple of times. Each time she would really make a huge effort to get back, inviting me over and being super nice, then when she felt all was ok she would go back to just being kinda off. I know her really well, so I can tell if shes being genuine or not. The latest incident was that a mutual friend told me she had said something behing my back. I confronted her and she denied, saying that mutual friend was joking and teasing me. The next day she was super nice again and then she told me you should have defended me and told her that i would never say that about you. After that she went cold again. Its just not the same as before, she doesnt contact me as often, doesnt like to hang out as before, im just not feeling right. Now this friend tends to be moody when she gets really busy but it never really affected me. What is bothering me is that i feel she is keeping the connection because i am working on her project, and shes helping me in my freelance job. So were kinda forced to keep some kind of connection. I expressed a couple of times how much I missed the connection we used to have, her latest response was that she doesnt know what she keeps getting busy in. She never reciprocated that she misses me too. I really struggled with this for some time, now I reached a point where Im really starting to feel detached, its not as painful anymore as in the beginning. I sometimes consider opening up to her, then she acts like her old self for a day or so and I retract. She isnt really the kind of person who likes confrontation. I am slowly detatching myself from her emotionally but sometimes i still wonder what changed? I think that first fallout where i told her i was getting bad vibes put her off because thats when everything started going downhill. Or am I just being oversensitive and reading too much into things and she is just super busy and overwhelmed? I get times when i feel I dont care and then I remember our closeness and miss our connection so much. Its really hard
