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Post by Gina99 on Nov 12, 2017 14:21:44 GMT -5
Why exactly do you think you could be in danger? Has she threatened you? If so I wouldn't formally break it off. Limit your activity for now. Tell her you are super busy planning the wedding, school, work, you aren't lying.
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Post by brittney87 on Nov 12, 2017 15:22:30 GMT -5
No she hasn’t threatened me. I wouldn’t put up with that. I would run and not stop, but with issues of this many, I feel like she could become unpredictable one day. That’s what mean by danger. I’ve had to take a psychology class in college and it’s common for people with these issues to have a relapse and stop taking medication. If that happens, I don’t want to put myself in a bad situation. I’ve honestly been limiting our time together lately but I talked to her a few days ago over the phone and she was telling me of her recent diagnosiss’. Honestly i had no idea what to say back. It felt awkward so I just listened. Like I said, I can’t relate to her anymore.
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Post by Gina99 on Nov 12, 2017 15:44:40 GMT -5
So limit your activity to listening to her on the phone every once in a while. If she has a break or gets really intense you can avoid her. Are you moving when you get married? If so you can eventually block her in every way if she get dangerous.
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Post by brittney87 on Nov 12, 2017 16:10:19 GMT -5
Yes but I’m not moving anywhere far away at first. I wasn’t going to tell her where my new place was. I’m hoping I can get away getting married without inviting her. I hope to move out of state after being married for a few years. Thanks so much for your advice, I’m going to keep limited contact with her.
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Post by Ask Anon on Nov 13, 2017 5:11:05 GMT -5
If she's shown no signs whatever of violent tendencies, and, as you say, she's 'religious about her meds', then the risk to you is absolutely tiny: probably no greater than the risk of one of your luckier friends becoming mentally ill and attacking you. Yes, these things do happen, but very, very rarely (which is why the media make such a fuss when they do happen).
Additionally, even on those rare occasions, in the vast majority of cases, the problems had been a long time coming, and the issues could have been dealt with safely.
And if she ever showed violent tendencies, or there were issues with her medication, you could re-assess the risk.
On the other hand, you have probably, over the years, become too deeply involved in the details. You aren't a nurse or her carer; if she has symptoms she wants to discuss, then you need to encourage her to talk to the professionals instead of talking to you, not as well. You don't want her (or anyone else) becoming dependent on you: "You shouldn't be telling me this, tell your doctor/nurse/therapist".
Having said all that, if you're scared, then you need to get out of the situation. Period.
Just be gentle and gradual about it: not because she's mentally ill, but because she's a person.
I cannot see any reason on Earth not to invite her to your wedding, if indeed you've been "best friends since 6th grade", unless there's something else that you haven't mentioned. That would be cruelty, wouldn't it?
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