Post by innocent2000 on Oct 24, 2017 14:49:17 GMT -5
I've known P for almost a year now. Even though it's considered relatively short, the amount of time we spent hanging out together, coupled with the fact that we share some similar interests, bonded us closer and we became best friends.
Needless to say, we also share bits of personal info which normally wouldn't be shared with general friends. However, I've noticed P hasn't been acting his usual self lately. He seems to be distancing himself & finding excuses/reasons not to hang out with me. I tried to brush it off, thinking that I should give him some personal space. Perhaps he's tired of us hanging out together so often. However, I realized there's more to it than meets the eye.
Last night, I happened to see P with a mutual friend's girlfriend & they were quite intimate from the looks of it. As I was standing at a distance, they didn't notice me. Shortly after, I texted P & mentioned that I saw him with a girl whom we both knew (w/o mentioning her name specifically). I guess he got the hint, because he read my message but didn't respond. By the way, P currently has a girlfriend.
Today, I was hoping to have an open & honest talk with P about what I saw last night, and to try understanding what's actually going on. However, the talk didn't happen. How should I approach the topic? Clearly I know that P is deliberately lying/hiding stuff from me. Naturally I'd feel hurt, upset & disappointed. But I have to respect his privacy as well. Of course I don't expect him to report everything to me. That's just unreasonable.
I truly value our friendship, but I don't know how/what I should do next. Should I just pretend that I didn't see anything? Keep quiet & not probe any further? Would really appreciate any advice.
Regards,
Dan
Needless to say, we also share bits of personal info which normally wouldn't be shared with general friends. However, I've noticed P hasn't been acting his usual self lately. He seems to be distancing himself & finding excuses/reasons not to hang out with me. I tried to brush it off, thinking that I should give him some personal space. Perhaps he's tired of us hanging out together so often. However, I realized there's more to it than meets the eye.
Last night, I happened to see P with a mutual friend's girlfriend & they were quite intimate from the looks of it. As I was standing at a distance, they didn't notice me. Shortly after, I texted P & mentioned that I saw him with a girl whom we both knew (w/o mentioning her name specifically). I guess he got the hint, because he read my message but didn't respond. By the way, P currently has a girlfriend.
Today, I was hoping to have an open & honest talk with P about what I saw last night, and to try understanding what's actually going on. However, the talk didn't happen. How should I approach the topic? Clearly I know that P is deliberately lying/hiding stuff from me. Naturally I'd feel hurt, upset & disappointed. But I have to respect his privacy as well. Of course I don't expect him to report everything to me. That's just unreasonable.
I truly value our friendship, but I don't know how/what I should do next. Should I just pretend that I didn't see anything? Keep quiet & not probe any further? Would really appreciate any advice.
Regards,
Dan
