Post by plimchan on Sept 14, 2017 3:45:26 GMT -5
My best friend is in a self-proclaimed abusive relationship. Her boyfriend is emotionally very cruel to her and treats her terribly, and yet thought she's aware of it all she feels she cannot leave due to feeling inadequate and the fact that she loves him.
I'm doing everything I can to keep her safe and sane. I am always honest with her and make sure that despite the frustrating nature of this situation, she always has me to come to should she need me.
The problem is, as selfish as this sounds, that I am beginning to feel a huge strain on our friendship.
Because said boyfriend is so controlling, I'm beginning to see less and less of my best friend. She lies to me constantly, something which in the 5 years of our friendship prior she has never done.
I feel very taken for granted as well, which I know is unfair but it's how I feel. I love her so much and to see her behave this way hurts me painfully.
I want to be there for her, and I will be, but how do I make this less stressful and painful to myself? Is there any way at all?
I'm doing everything I can to keep her safe and sane. I am always honest with her and make sure that despite the frustrating nature of this situation, she always has me to come to should she need me.
The problem is, as selfish as this sounds, that I am beginning to feel a huge strain on our friendship.
Because said boyfriend is so controlling, I'm beginning to see less and less of my best friend. She lies to me constantly, something which in the 5 years of our friendship prior she has never done.
I feel very taken for granted as well, which I know is unfair but it's how I feel. I love her so much and to see her behave this way hurts me painfully.
I want to be there for her, and I will be, but how do I make this less stressful and painful to myself? Is there any way at all?
