Very hurt and confused

cb1979
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Very hurt and confused Apr 25, 2017 12:47:00 GMT -5

Post by cb1979 on Apr 25, 2017 12:47:00 GMT -5

I have been with my partner for 14 years, married since July 2015 right after gay marriage became legal. Just recently I found out that he was on a gay dating app and looking for "something regular" I started to anonymously talk to him and he went so far as to schedule a time to meet up, which has already passed.

I'm not sure how to handle the situation. I feel like he'll turn it around to be my fault somehow and I'd really like some advice.

We are renting his mother's house and I am not in a financial situation where I can easily leave. I have no family in the area and really have no clue what to do. I'd appreciate any advice.

Ask Anon Administrator & Global Moderator AskAnon Posts: 3,189	Very hurt and confused Apr 25, 2017 18:03:48 GMT -5 Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Ask Anon on Apr 25, 2017 18:03:48 GMT -5 Have you been spying on him? I think the first thing you need to do is decide what outcome you are looking for? Do you want to split up? Do you want to fix the relationship?
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Very hurt and confused Apr 26, 2017 14:25:35 GMT -5

Post by Gina99 on Apr 26, 2017 14:25:35 GMT -5

How did you know that he was on dating sites?

I think you should have a conversation stating that you think there are problems in the relationship and that he seems unhappy etc. That is the bigger picture here. Ask him if he wants to see other people and see if the meetings come up. Meanwhile make sure you are using protection.

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Post by cb1979 on Apr 25, 2017 12:47:00 GMT -5

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Post by Gina99 on Apr 26, 2017 14:25:35 GMT -5