Post by annonymous4 on Dec 15, 2016 12:59:21 GMT -5
I've been friends with this girl, I'll call her Jess. So I've known Jess for around 8 years but we were in different friendship groups and never really spoke. About 3 years ago we started speaking in school briefly. She had a boyfriend (I'll call him Adam) who hated me and I never really knew why as we were in the same classes when we were in year 7 and used to get along. I noticed in school whenever her boyfriend was around she would ignore me and act like I didn't exist and later I found out through her it was because he didn't like me. It annoyed me but I didn't do anything as me and her were just acquaintances.
Through the past 2 years we've gotten closer as a guy best friend of mine (now not friends anymore) and Adam are best friends so we had two guys in common. I once overheard him say to a friend he didn't like me because I'm loud and I think I'm really pretty and better than everyone else, which I don't think and nor do I act like that. She also told me the reason she'd ignore me in school is because Adam told her not to speak to me so she would only speak to me when he wasn't around.
She cheated on him and their relationship ended a year ago as he dumped her. Throughout that year me and her became like best friends. We spoke everyday and confided in each other I helped her with her break up and she helped me with issues I was having with my guy best friend.
We once went out shopping and she was having a fight with Adam over him demanding all the stuff back that has ever bought her and she stood up for herself for once. He then said "don't act brave in front of your fat b*tch of a friend" - i am big and my weight is a very big insecurity of mine. She got mad at him and said that wasn't nice.
A few months later she told me they had gotten back together. Since then she hasn't made much of an effort in contacting me. Prior to this sometimes our convos on whatsapp would die out but I would always resume convo in the next few days. This time I've been very ill and she asked me once if I was okay and didn't reply halfway through a normal convo we had. It's been a week and she knows I've. Wen getting worse due to social media and me posting but didn't message. When she saw I was home for Christmas she messaged me asking how I am.
I feel like our friendship is very one sided and she's starting to make less effort now she's with Adam, who openly admits he hates me. I've tried to made amends with Adam and he's never been interested and also claims I talk about him behind his back - when I never have and in fact he's the one who talks about me behind my back.
She also told me she lets him go through her phone and he looks at my conversations with her even though I tell her personal things. She then said she deletes our convos so he can't read them. Ur I have a hard time believing that.
I don't know whether to just ignore her the way she does to me and reply in a few weeks. I don't like arguing or confrontation and if I tell her how I feel she'll make excuses like she normally does when she says she was busy with family or with school work. But she's not too busy to go on instagram and snapchat and open my Snapchat stories?
She has been there for me when I've been down and I've been there for her and I don't want to be ungrateful and I've lost so many friends this year that it's really starting to get me down. I've had friends who aren't even close to me asking constantly how my health is but one of my own apparent best friends asked once then never bothered?
Through the past 2 years we've gotten closer as a guy best friend of mine (now not friends anymore) and Adam are best friends so we had two guys in common. I once overheard him say to a friend he didn't like me because I'm loud and I think I'm really pretty and better than everyone else, which I don't think and nor do I act like that. She also told me the reason she'd ignore me in school is because Adam told her not to speak to me so she would only speak to me when he wasn't around.
She cheated on him and their relationship ended a year ago as he dumped her. Throughout that year me and her became like best friends. We spoke everyday and confided in each other I helped her with her break up and she helped me with issues I was having with my guy best friend.
We once went out shopping and she was having a fight with Adam over him demanding all the stuff back that has ever bought her and she stood up for herself for once. He then said "don't act brave in front of your fat b*tch of a friend" - i am big and my weight is a very big insecurity of mine. She got mad at him and said that wasn't nice.
A few months later she told me they had gotten back together. Since then she hasn't made much of an effort in contacting me. Prior to this sometimes our convos on whatsapp would die out but I would always resume convo in the next few days. This time I've been very ill and she asked me once if I was okay and didn't reply halfway through a normal convo we had. It's been a week and she knows I've. Wen getting worse due to social media and me posting but didn't message. When she saw I was home for Christmas she messaged me asking how I am.
I feel like our friendship is very one sided and she's starting to make less effort now she's with Adam, who openly admits he hates me. I've tried to made amends with Adam and he's never been interested and also claims I talk about him behind his back - when I never have and in fact he's the one who talks about me behind my back.
She also told me she lets him go through her phone and he looks at my conversations with her even though I tell her personal things. She then said she deletes our convos so he can't read them. Ur I have a hard time believing that.
I don't know whether to just ignore her the way she does to me and reply in a few weeks. I don't like arguing or confrontation and if I tell her how I feel she'll make excuses like she normally does when she says she was busy with family or with school work. But she's not too busy to go on instagram and snapchat and open my Snapchat stories?
She has been there for me when I've been down and I've been there for her and I don't want to be ungrateful and I've lost so many friends this year that it's really starting to get me down. I've had friends who aren't even close to me asking constantly how my health is but one of my own apparent best friends asked once then never bothered?
