dml89
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Post by dml89 on Dec 3, 2016 1:06:28 GMT -5
Hello, I'm really struggling with my relationship with my son. I was away alot from his first birth day to about 3.5, I was in the military. But I never have had a deep connection with him and I don't know how to respond to him when he acts out. I feel so guilty. I just had my second child and it's gut wrenching. It's so different. I love my son, I truly do. But I don't feel as connected with him. Sometimes I feel more like a step parent then his mother. My mother had him while I was gone. And now that I've married she barley sees him. I feel like so much has happened in his little life and nothing probably seems stable. I get so angry with him. I don't know how to deal with him and it pushes him away more. And it's just breaking my heart. I know that I need to get into therapy for my angry and depression issues. But I just feel like I'm ruining my son. I try. And I constantly give up because I feel like he isn't listening or he isn't trying. And it gives me such bad headaches. We had to pull him out of school because he was hitting other students and never listened to his teacher. I have been trying to hone school but I'm crashing so hard. I don't know how to teach him. I feel so bad. And it just gets worse every day.
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Post by Ask Anon on Dec 3, 2016 8:50:29 GMT -5
I know that I need to get into therapy for my angry and depression issues I think you do; you have serious guilt issues; rather than focus on his needs now, you are obsessing about the past. That won't get past his abandonment issues - which should be resolvable in a small child. Get that help and move forward.
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Post by Gina99 on Dec 4, 2016 18:45:31 GMT -5
'I know that I need to get into therapy for my angry and depression issues. '
So why haven't you? Do it for your son sooner rather than later. Your son is acting out at school because of his home life.
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