Post by meontheinside on Jul 7, 2016 18:39:25 GMT -5
Hey, third post... I would have never thought that posting to an online community would make me feel a little better. So I am going to continue getting some things off my chest.
I am an 18 year old girl and I have been in a relationship with a 16 year old boy for 3 months as of July 13. Even though we haven't been together for very long I wouldn't hesitate to say that I truly love him.
Unfortunately, because I am going to college, we will be entering a long distance relationship come late August.
Here is where I need help... I am absolutely terrified.
I love him so much... But I am scared that we will be pulled apart. I constantly have these polar opposite thoughts- usually over a period of days but sometimes in as little as hours- of "What if I end up hurting him", "what if he hurts me", "what if we just aren't meant to do this" and "we will be fine", "we will make it through this", "we both love each other", "everything will be okay".
I know it is natural to worry about these kind of things- but it is the only thing that has been torturing me for weeks. Everyday I have some sort of heart wrenching situation my brain concocts that I have to work through. I have already discussed these feelings with him and he is rather scared too, but assures me that some things are meant to be, and if we are meant to be everything will work out. He tells me that we are going to be okay, and in the moment I believe him- but then the other thoughts consume me.
I also understand that in a relationship both people should be independent figures that do not depend on the other, but rather want to be stronger together. I would like to believe I am not dependent on him, but I can't help but even doubt that because of all of my thoughts!
I just want to be happy with him... When I am with him all of these doubts fly away. I know deep down we as a couple can work through this... But I am just so scared. To some of you I might be too young to know what love is, and to be honest I wouldn't doubt that you guys are actually right. But what I have with him- whether it is love or not- is special and I am willing to fight to keep it.
Do we have a chance? Am I okay or am I going insane? How do I make this work?
I am an 18 year old girl and I have been in a relationship with a 16 year old boy for 3 months as of July 13. Even though we haven't been together for very long I wouldn't hesitate to say that I truly love him.
Unfortunately, because I am going to college, we will be entering a long distance relationship come late August.
Here is where I need help... I am absolutely terrified.
I love him so much... But I am scared that we will be pulled apart. I constantly have these polar opposite thoughts- usually over a period of days but sometimes in as little as hours- of "What if I end up hurting him", "what if he hurts me", "what if we just aren't meant to do this" and "we will be fine", "we will make it through this", "we both love each other", "everything will be okay".
I know it is natural to worry about these kind of things- but it is the only thing that has been torturing me for weeks. Everyday I have some sort of heart wrenching situation my brain concocts that I have to work through. I have already discussed these feelings with him and he is rather scared too, but assures me that some things are meant to be, and if we are meant to be everything will work out. He tells me that we are going to be okay, and in the moment I believe him- but then the other thoughts consume me.
I also understand that in a relationship both people should be independent figures that do not depend on the other, but rather want to be stronger together. I would like to believe I am not dependent on him, but I can't help but even doubt that because of all of my thoughts!
I just want to be happy with him... When I am with him all of these doubts fly away. I know deep down we as a couple can work through this... But I am just so scared. To some of you I might be too young to know what love is, and to be honest I wouldn't doubt that you guys are actually right. But what I have with him- whether it is love or not- is special and I am willing to fight to keep it.
Do we have a chance? Am I okay or am I going insane? How do I make this work?
