Post by alliswell on Nov 3, 2022 4:17:44 GMT -5
I am infatuated to my maid. We are of the same age, single. The attraction is not sexual (as people normally assume) , I am in love with her personality and she is probably the most polite person I have ever seen, but at the same time I know a relationship like this won't work because a huge class difference exists where I live . The attraction has reached a point where it hurts and causes me great discomfort when I see her everyday. People elsewhere say that this is because I am attracted to an imaginary perfect figure I have created of her in my mind. I think this is indeed true...I think of her as someone so perfect and I feel like I don't deserve her.
They say the only way to get rid of this feeling is by talking to her and getting to know her more and understand her flaws, but as I said earlier, these kind of relationships are kinda considered taboo where I live so I can't talk to her because she is just there to do her job and I may creep her out, which may lead her to leave her job and cause her financial instability. I would never want that. The only possible way I see here is to cut contact with her so that the feeling fades away naturally, I can do that but not till next year when I will move out of the house for my degree. It's really like I am trapped...I can't express my feelings to her nor can I move away from her for atleast a year...I have to just bear the pair due to the anxiety which comes up when I see her everyday...I get really sad due to the helplessness I feel...I try to go out of the house to the gym when she arrives so that I do not have to see her but I wonder for how long I can do this...how long will I be able to avoid her? It also causes a great discomfort for me trying to avoid her everyday...It drains a lot of energy...and it also affects my studies...please give me some advice get rid of this situation...
It is okay if I don't end up being in a relationship with her...I will get over it with time...but right now she will be in my life everyday for the rest of the year before I move out of the house, I need a way in which she doesn't affect my life so negatively in this time period...please help me...it is like a torture that happens to me everyday.
Thank You
They say the only way to get rid of this feeling is by talking to her and getting to know her more and understand her flaws, but as I said earlier, these kind of relationships are kinda considered taboo where I live so I can't talk to her because she is just there to do her job and I may creep her out, which may lead her to leave her job and cause her financial instability. I would never want that. The only possible way I see here is to cut contact with her so that the feeling fades away naturally, I can do that but not till next year when I will move out of the house for my degree. It's really like I am trapped...I can't express my feelings to her nor can I move away from her for atleast a year...I have to just bear the pair due to the anxiety which comes up when I see her everyday...I get really sad due to the helplessness I feel...I try to go out of the house to the gym when she arrives so that I do not have to see her but I wonder for how long I can do this...how long will I be able to avoid her? It also causes a great discomfort for me trying to avoid her everyday...It drains a lot of energy...and it also affects my studies...please give me some advice get rid of this situation...
It is okay if I don't end up being in a relationship with her...I will get over it with time...but right now she will be in my life everyday for the rest of the year before I move out of the house, I need a way in which she doesn't affect my life so negatively in this time period...please help me...it is like a torture that happens to me everyday.
Thank You
