I need some advice. Please help.

What's not working out too well? What do you want from him?



I've had a big brother for many years, and I've never once discussed the matter with him. We're brothers. It just is. No need for a jamboree.

The fact you are making such a song and dance over something that requires no fuss or bother says much more about you than it does about him, or the relationship.

What is missing in your life? What do you think you were deprived of in your younger days?
Maybe he's right; maybe you are gay. You should think about that.

But whatever is going on in you, you'd be wise to get professional help, not project your issues onto someone else. That's not what friends do. Or brothers, either.

But if all you really want is a 'sibling bond', there's just one thing you have to do.
Be grateful for his friendship.
I think brothers usually are, if pushed.
Oh, and don't tell him you're grateful.
Brothers don't do that.
And that's it. Job done.

I do have other friends and no I don't suffocate him. I'm not around him that much. I guess I'm feeling this way since I don't get spend as much time with him.

If you have a good relationship, then you have a good relationship. You don't need to 'make a bond' - the bond is there, unspoken, or it isn't.

If it isn't, no amount of bond-making will create it. And as I said, brother - and good friends, for that matter - don't need to keep talking about their relationship. It's just there. Or it just isn't.

You need to ask yourself why your are prepared to damage that relationship - lose it, even - by constantly talking about it, when nothing needs to be said.

The problem is in you: you need to find out why you don't trust this close friend, and need to try to force him into some kind of bond - which, let's face it, would fall apart if the friendship fell apart, so what's the point?

It's not the relationship that is the issue, it's your insecurity that's the issue.