Post by solitaryroomate on Feb 25, 2021 15:48:11 GMT -5
So I have this roommate, one out of two, (three total people in the apartment) that initiated a change in shared space without consulting any of the other roommates. The change was not received well and now the roommate is throwing a fit whenever the change is not conformed to. Advice?
My point of view:
I feel like I should not have to participate in this change. No one in the house was asked if this change would affect us, if it was undesirable, or if it was a negotiable adjustment. While the receivement of the change could have definitely been handled better (that was me) there seems to be a principle behind both parties' choices.
The roommate in question made a choice to change something without consulting the other people living in the house, and I have made a choice to not conform to this change without listening to any reasoning that may have been initially offered by the roommate.
In general this isn’t a big change but it is inconvenient and an odd installment. There are more nuances on my end of this change and I am sure there are more on the roommate’s perspective as well. The main problem now is the anger they are showing to things not going their way and passive aggressive behavior of both parties.
We now do everything to avoid each other. I have reached the point of view of “I am just living my normal life pre-roommate, and they are angry their change isn’t part of my lifestyle”.
Hopefully this person is still planning to move out in a month as they mentioned before this conflict arose. To add to the background this particular roommate was going to move because they caused conflict with the other roommate we share without prompt as soon as they both moved in.
Any advice for the time in-between them moving out and me becoming rich and buying my own home?
My point of view:
I feel like I should not have to participate in this change. No one in the house was asked if this change would affect us, if it was undesirable, or if it was a negotiable adjustment. While the receivement of the change could have definitely been handled better (that was me) there seems to be a principle behind both parties' choices.
The roommate in question made a choice to change something without consulting the other people living in the house, and I have made a choice to not conform to this change without listening to any reasoning that may have been initially offered by the roommate.
In general this isn’t a big change but it is inconvenient and an odd installment. There are more nuances on my end of this change and I am sure there are more on the roommate’s perspective as well. The main problem now is the anger they are showing to things not going their way and passive aggressive behavior of both parties.
We now do everything to avoid each other. I have reached the point of view of “I am just living my normal life pre-roommate, and they are angry their change isn’t part of my lifestyle”.
Hopefully this person is still planning to move out in a month as they mentioned before this conflict arose. To add to the background this particular roommate was going to move because they caused conflict with the other roommate we share without prompt as soon as they both moved in.
Any advice for the time in-between them moving out and me becoming rich and buying my own home?
