Post by jane on Nov 1, 2020 5:50:07 GMT -5
Should I let a guy know I like him even though he has a girlfriend
I’ve liked a guy from a far for a while, I thought it would stop but it hasn’t. have never really flirted or been obviously forward with him as he has a girlfriend so I have always remained respectful of that and his relationship. However I know that she’s not very nice to him, he’s said it himself, as have other people, but he thinks it’s his fault :-( his friends have mentioned really not liking her at all, he even said once she was being horrible to him about how he dresses, which I find petty and controlling, but I keep my opinion to myself . It does baffle me, I think he dresses so cool. They even split for a little bit in summer, but seem to be together again, he said she’s going to counselling for her anger issues - from what he and others have said looks like she paints herself as the victim after lashing out at him and then he has to console her after she’s horrible to him??? only last night when she was out with us all in the pub did I over hear another girl giving her a talk about not being so intense with him and to not call him so much, just chill.
When I see him he’s so nice, he makes an effort to come say hi to me out everyone in the crowd (but not last night when the gf was out with him) he notices small details about me, gives me compliments, but doesn’t over step then mark for someone with a gf, I feel nice and calm around him and we talk really well, never awkward, I think he’s so gorgeous but I never really get alone time with him and I never chase as am respectful of his situation. I have put it all to the back of my head and make no action, keep all my options open. But it’s been about 5 months now and every time I think I’m over this crush I see him out and I become so aware of his presence and he’s back on my mind again. It’s always there niggling. It seems the best thing to do is stay silent, anything said by me could cause him more trouble with her and if the feelings aren’t reciprocated then it’s even more weird, I really done want to maliciously break anyone up. I just really don’t like the idea of him not being happy in a nice situation he’s so lovely he deserves genuine love and kindness. I feel like I just watch from afar powerless to make him feel good. Should I just shut up and bury it ??
I’ve liked a guy from a far for a while, I thought it would stop but it hasn’t. have never really flirted or been obviously forward with him as he has a girlfriend so I have always remained respectful of that and his relationship. However I know that she’s not very nice to him, he’s said it himself, as have other people, but he thinks it’s his fault :-( his friends have mentioned really not liking her at all, he even said once she was being horrible to him about how he dresses, which I find petty and controlling, but I keep my opinion to myself . It does baffle me, I think he dresses so cool. They even split for a little bit in summer, but seem to be together again, he said she’s going to counselling for her anger issues - from what he and others have said looks like she paints herself as the victim after lashing out at him and then he has to console her after she’s horrible to him??? only last night when she was out with us all in the pub did I over hear another girl giving her a talk about not being so intense with him and to not call him so much, just chill.
When I see him he’s so nice, he makes an effort to come say hi to me out everyone in the crowd (but not last night when the gf was out with him) he notices small details about me, gives me compliments, but doesn’t over step then mark for someone with a gf, I feel nice and calm around him and we talk really well, never awkward, I think he’s so gorgeous but I never really get alone time with him and I never chase as am respectful of his situation. I have put it all to the back of my head and make no action, keep all my options open. But it’s been about 5 months now and every time I think I’m over this crush I see him out and I become so aware of his presence and he’s back on my mind again. It’s always there niggling. It seems the best thing to do is stay silent, anything said by me could cause him more trouble with her and if the feelings aren’t reciprocated then it’s even more weird, I really done want to maliciously break anyone up. I just really don’t like the idea of him not being happy in a nice situation he’s so lovely he deserves genuine love and kindness. I feel like I just watch from afar powerless to make him feel good. Should I just shut up and bury it ??
