Post by paul18 on Oct 11, 2020 0:49:40 GMT -5
Hey Kings. Need advice.
So here's the deal.
I graduated last year. My ex and I broke up Jan this year. She's a year younger than me, and is still in highschool. We'll call her "Karen". I had fun with plenty of girls throughout my junior and senior highschool years, and all of my girlfriends were kind and goodnatured. Karen and i were together for perhaps 8 months, and it was full of constant bickering and pettiness. She didn't let me go to parties, or see friends. After graduation, she stopped me from going camping with mates to celebrate.
After she broke up with me in Jan, she started sending me videos over social media of her getting her friends to belittle me, then even posted a similar video on her insta.Even got my formal photos and cropped nasty faces over me to mock me.
This lasted for about 2.
During our relationship, whenever i reacted, she would use my reaction as justification for her ill treatment. So when she was acting the way she did after we broke up, i did nothing. I kept that anger in. And i never spoke ill of her either, because i didn't want to be like her.
Fast forward to about July.
I start chatting up another girl in my ex's grade. We'll call her Eve. Eve is the polar opposite of Karen.
We agree on pretty much everything. We have a lot of the same likes / dislikes. It seemed that, as we spoke more, it felt as though providence had offered me and incredibly mature and intelligent girl. She's a true diamond. And incredibly rare girl. I doubt i'd easily find a girl that would fulfill what i'm looking for, and i doubt she'd easily find a guy that would fulfill what she's looking for either.
Karen had spewed a lot about me, not to really convince other people that i'm horrible, but to convince herself so that she can validate her actions towards me. Eve also heard a lot about me, being Karen's friend. And so has all of Karens friends. They see me as the antichrist incarnate.
Eve contemplated the consequences of dating me, and decided against going on the date. She said that if Karen or her friends found out we got together, she would lose her friends. She also said she didn't want to break the 'girl code' by dating her friends recent ex. Which is understandable, Eve doesn't want to be alone. She did however say that, once she leaves school, she wouldnt have to deal with the consequences.
She then said that, despite the similarities and me being a cool guy, theres the "you dated my friend" situation which she doesnt want to get into, and proceeded to say she's sure i'll find another girl like her out there.
She insisted on continuing to talk, but we havent really spoken for a week now, and i think we both feel too crap to talk. At least i am.
So here are some questions:
Her birthday is in Jan. Should i randomly send her a happy birthday message? To possible re-spark correspondence for the new year?
Considering she'll be out of school then and likely not hanging with Karen and her mob by then anymore, do you think it possible i could still catch this diamond of a girl?
Any other comments from fellow kings, whether good or bad, are welcome (:
I feel like absolute crap about the situation, but i sorta still feel hopeful, ya know?
cheers
- paul
So here's the deal.
I graduated last year. My ex and I broke up Jan this year. She's a year younger than me, and is still in highschool. We'll call her "Karen". I had fun with plenty of girls throughout my junior and senior highschool years, and all of my girlfriends were kind and goodnatured. Karen and i were together for perhaps 8 months, and it was full of constant bickering and pettiness. She didn't let me go to parties, or see friends. After graduation, she stopped me from going camping with mates to celebrate.
After she broke up with me in Jan, she started sending me videos over social media of her getting her friends to belittle me, then even posted a similar video on her insta.Even got my formal photos and cropped nasty faces over me to mock me.
This lasted for about 2.
During our relationship, whenever i reacted, she would use my reaction as justification for her ill treatment. So when she was acting the way she did after we broke up, i did nothing. I kept that anger in. And i never spoke ill of her either, because i didn't want to be like her.
Fast forward to about July.
I start chatting up another girl in my ex's grade. We'll call her Eve. Eve is the polar opposite of Karen.
We agree on pretty much everything. We have a lot of the same likes / dislikes. It seemed that, as we spoke more, it felt as though providence had offered me and incredibly mature and intelligent girl. She's a true diamond. And incredibly rare girl. I doubt i'd easily find a girl that would fulfill what i'm looking for, and i doubt she'd easily find a guy that would fulfill what she's looking for either.
Karen had spewed a lot about me, not to really convince other people that i'm horrible, but to convince herself so that she can validate her actions towards me. Eve also heard a lot about me, being Karen's friend. And so has all of Karens friends. They see me as the antichrist incarnate.
Eve contemplated the consequences of dating me, and decided against going on the date. She said that if Karen or her friends found out we got together, she would lose her friends. She also said she didn't want to break the 'girl code' by dating her friends recent ex. Which is understandable, Eve doesn't want to be alone. She did however say that, once she leaves school, she wouldnt have to deal with the consequences.
She then said that, despite the similarities and me being a cool guy, theres the "you dated my friend" situation which she doesnt want to get into, and proceeded to say she's sure i'll find another girl like her out there.
She insisted on continuing to talk, but we havent really spoken for a week now, and i think we both feel too crap to talk. At least i am.
So here are some questions:
Her birthday is in Jan. Should i randomly send her a happy birthday message? To possible re-spark correspondence for the new year?
Considering she'll be out of school then and likely not hanging with Karen and her mob by then anymore, do you think it possible i could still catch this diamond of a girl?
Any other comments from fellow kings, whether good or bad, are welcome (:
I feel like absolute crap about the situation, but i sorta still feel hopeful, ya know?
cheers
- paul
