Post by rosiebutterfly on Oct 1, 2020 3:16:20 GMT -5
Hi All,
i've had a fairly rough time this year, i've been assaulted, I've lost a friend that died and also my sister went through a domestic court case and is now back with the abuser so i've had to cut her out.
Because of all the issues i've faced and also all the coronavirus problems re not being able to leave the house there's a few friends I haven't seen as much or supported like I usually would.
One of my friends had surgery last year and she lives really far from me and I don't drive so it wouldn't be easy to get there even train doesnt go near where she lives, because of her recovery time we usually see each other before christmas and exchange presents, we didnt do this and met in March, i brought all her presents with me and she didnt bring any for me but kind of made an excuse that she forgot them.
I also bought her baby a present also, we haven't seen each other since march and my birthday was in August.
She sent me a instagram post but that was it, I didnt really celebrate i just had a weekend away with my husband and other friend at the time.
My husband every year buys a cake off my friend who im speaking about and usually i have a card and a present with the cake from her, this time it was just the cake. I didn't say anything as I am not a give to receive person, I then got invited to her 1st birthday party for her daughter which was the week after my birthday i thought perhaps she would have got me a present and given it to me then or a card, but i went to the house and there was nothing for me - i bought poppy 3 presents too.
She is recently going through a divorce so during the past 6 months i've sent her get well soon cards to the house, a big candle set that said new beginnings and a friendship bracelet during lockdown, i must say that when i had my assault she sent me an attack alarm and it was my first wedding anniversary in July so i received flowers from her.
I'm just really confused as we always gave each other presents for birthdays and shes recently just got her other friend georgina presents for her birthday and i just cant work out why there was no effort for mine.... theres been no falling out and everything is exactly the same.
After the christmas presents weren't exchanged from her side, or my birthday - do I continue to get her gifts? I originally got her a diamond Monica Vinader bracelet with her initials on but because shes gone through the divorce i cant give her that now, so im wondering whether i still do even though nothing was given to me twice now for xmas and my birthday?
I also said that i'd take her out for dinner to cheer her up and pay for everything, one of my close friends thinks im being a massive idiot and to not buy anything else, but i'm going to her 30th dinner on sunday so will feel bad if i turn up with nothing even if shes done the same back to me, really need advice as i cant stop thinking about what to do.... i will still take her out and pay for everything regardless!
i've had a fairly rough time this year, i've been assaulted, I've lost a friend that died and also my sister went through a domestic court case and is now back with the abuser so i've had to cut her out.
Because of all the issues i've faced and also all the coronavirus problems re not being able to leave the house there's a few friends I haven't seen as much or supported like I usually would.
One of my friends had surgery last year and she lives really far from me and I don't drive so it wouldn't be easy to get there even train doesnt go near where she lives, because of her recovery time we usually see each other before christmas and exchange presents, we didnt do this and met in March, i brought all her presents with me and she didnt bring any for me but kind of made an excuse that she forgot them.
I also bought her baby a present also, we haven't seen each other since march and my birthday was in August.
She sent me a instagram post but that was it, I didnt really celebrate i just had a weekend away with my husband and other friend at the time.
My husband every year buys a cake off my friend who im speaking about and usually i have a card and a present with the cake from her, this time it was just the cake. I didn't say anything as I am not a give to receive person, I then got invited to her 1st birthday party for her daughter which was the week after my birthday i thought perhaps she would have got me a present and given it to me then or a card, but i went to the house and there was nothing for me - i bought poppy 3 presents too.
She is recently going through a divorce so during the past 6 months i've sent her get well soon cards to the house, a big candle set that said new beginnings and a friendship bracelet during lockdown, i must say that when i had my assault she sent me an attack alarm and it was my first wedding anniversary in July so i received flowers from her.
I'm just really confused as we always gave each other presents for birthdays and shes recently just got her other friend georgina presents for her birthday and i just cant work out why there was no effort for mine.... theres been no falling out and everything is exactly the same.
After the christmas presents weren't exchanged from her side, or my birthday - do I continue to get her gifts? I originally got her a diamond Monica Vinader bracelet with her initials on but because shes gone through the divorce i cant give her that now, so im wondering whether i still do even though nothing was given to me twice now for xmas and my birthday?
I also said that i'd take her out for dinner to cheer her up and pay for everything, one of my close friends thinks im being a massive idiot and to not buy anything else, but i'm going to her 30th dinner on sunday so will feel bad if i turn up with nothing even if shes done the same back to me, really need advice as i cant stop thinking about what to do.... i will still take her out and pay for everything regardless!
