amari
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Post by amari on Sept 27, 2020 5:51:18 GMT -5
Me and my non-binary friend started hanging out about a year ago, and a while, we were quite close. At first I thought they were just annoying and too much onto me, but as I got to know them more, they kinda became my best friend. They taught me a lot about different sexualities and they made some new interests of mine. But of some reason, they kind of... don’t like the person I am anymore? I don’t know. But nowadays they tell me all the time that I’m boring and doesn’t wanna hang out with me or not even talk. Last time I saw them they ignored me all day. I just had a text conversation with them and asked how they were doing, and said that I want to know what I did wrong so that I can fix it. But they replied with that every time they tell me what I’ve done, it works out one day and then goes back to normal. And maybe that is true. Because it’s really hard to be someone you’re not. I feel quite bad about this and I don’t know if they want me as a friend or not! Please help me..
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Post by Ask Anon on Sept 28, 2020 3:41:22 GMT -5
It's usually a mistake to live your life through others.
Be yourself. Sure, if your 'friend' makes suggestions that can make you a better person, then try to change. But don't change just to please someone else - as you've shown, it's never enough.
Your 'friend' is making you jump through hoops like a circus animal, and for what?
My advice would be to find someone who likes you as you are, imperfections and all. Someone who wants your friendship. You see, it's about respect. Someone who can only find fault isn't seeing the real you; they're seeing "A you that could be" - and that's their problem, not yours.
Incidentally, I'm not sure why you mentioned that your 'friend' is non-binary. Is that relevant?
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