Post by randomized on Apr 15, 2020 1:55:24 GMT -5
I feel weird doing this but I dont really have anyone I can talk to this about.
I was recently let go from my job due to the current situation and everything. I hated my job with a passion so it didn't bother me too much but when I realized I would be saying good bye to someone, it has really begun to effect me.
There is a girl I worked with and we got along great. Think of Pam and Jim from the office type of relationship (before they hooked up). I would see her a couple times a day, shed come by my desk to bring me paperwork i'd need, and I'd go by and talk to her about something or make fun of someone. Nothing ever happened between us but I find myself missing her terribly.
I know the obvious solution is just "tell her how I feel" except I am a married man. I mean it when I say nothing ever happened between us, I think the reason why we got along so great was because there was no sexual tension because of the situation. I dont know what I am going through, I feel guilty about having these feelings over another woman but she is constantly in my thoughts. I was always happy with our relationship being friends but once a goodbye was introduced it made me realize that maybe my feelings for her are deeper than I wanted to realize.
I dont know if I'm looking for advice or what. I have no intention to pursue this woman but at the same time all I want to do is speak to her and find out how she is doing or share some jokes with.
I guess if i have any questions they would be.
1. Is it fair to pursue a friendship if she is attracted to me?
2. If I am attracted to her is it okay to keep lines of communication open as friends?
3. Should I just remain silent and not reach out to her ever.
I was recently let go from my job due to the current situation and everything. I hated my job with a passion so it didn't bother me too much but when I realized I would be saying good bye to someone, it has really begun to effect me.
There is a girl I worked with and we got along great. Think of Pam and Jim from the office type of relationship (before they hooked up). I would see her a couple times a day, shed come by my desk to bring me paperwork i'd need, and I'd go by and talk to her about something or make fun of someone. Nothing ever happened between us but I find myself missing her terribly.
I know the obvious solution is just "tell her how I feel" except I am a married man. I mean it when I say nothing ever happened between us, I think the reason why we got along so great was because there was no sexual tension because of the situation. I dont know what I am going through, I feel guilty about having these feelings over another woman but she is constantly in my thoughts. I was always happy with our relationship being friends but once a goodbye was introduced it made me realize that maybe my feelings for her are deeper than I wanted to realize.
I dont know if I'm looking for advice or what. I have no intention to pursue this woman but at the same time all I want to do is speak to her and find out how she is doing or share some jokes with.
I guess if i have any questions they would be.
1. Is it fair to pursue a friendship if she is attracted to me?
2. If I am attracted to her is it okay to keep lines of communication open as friends?
3. Should I just remain silent and not reach out to her ever.
