Post by Ask Anon on Sept 2, 2017 3:23:53 GMT -5
It's all very complicated, and you need to discuss all this with a counsellor or therapist (you don't say if you've already done this).
You are expecting your friends to act as your counsellor, by forcing all your woes on them. They are being very patient, but they are also confused, stuck for words, embarrassed, and frozen by the fear that if they say the wrong thing, you'll explode, go missing, or simply break down on them.
Your friends are just that. Friends. You are trying to force a responsibility on them that they don't want, don't need, and aren't qualified for. Luckily for you, they know their limitations and have not made things worse by filling the silences with BS.
They're friends. You need friends. Don't drive them away. Force yourself to take an interest in something that may not seem important to you - but may to them. Don't force your history on them continually and in depth. They don't need to know, they don't want to know. What they do want to know is that you are getting a grip. That you're taking your meds, that you're not mixing alcohol and meds, that you are doing something about your issues.
If you disagree with me, that's fine. But in that case, get new friends, don't moan about the ones you have; the ones you're driving away.
But most of all: Get professional help. Take your meds - or discuss with the prescriber why you want to stop them. The first step forward is insight. Not into yourself - you have that - but into your problems. You are seeing them from the inside, you need a professional perspective on them.
You are expecting your friends to act as your counsellor, by forcing all your woes on them. They are being very patient, but they are also confused, stuck for words, embarrassed, and frozen by the fear that if they say the wrong thing, you'll explode, go missing, or simply break down on them.
Your friends are just that. Friends. You are trying to force a responsibility on them that they don't want, don't need, and aren't qualified for. Luckily for you, they know their limitations and have not made things worse by filling the silences with BS.
They're friends. You need friends. Don't drive them away. Force yourself to take an interest in something that may not seem important to you - but may to them. Don't force your history on them continually and in depth. They don't need to know, they don't want to know. What they do want to know is that you are getting a grip. That you're taking your meds, that you're not mixing alcohol and meds, that you are doing something about your issues.
If you disagree with me, that's fine. But in that case, get new friends, don't moan about the ones you have; the ones you're driving away.
I stopped taking the medicine and I fell into this pit of despair.
But most of all: Get professional help. Take your meds - or discuss with the prescriber why you want to stop them. The first step forward is insight. Not into yourself - you have that - but into your problems. You are seeing them from the inside, you need a professional perspective on them.