Post by sassyvintagesoul on Jul 14, 2017 7:29:46 GMT -5
I need someone to talk to. I got a lot going on and its stressing me out. My family life is stressing me out. Keeping it bottled up is stressing me out. I cant talk to my husband because his overreactions to things upset me more, although he means well. Telling him anything just gets a argument started because he is so judgmental and not really forgiving, or at least not as I am.
First thing going on is my Mom's health. She had three heart attacks in nine days a few months ago. They placed a stint and its working great. Problem there is we know she has other blockages in her legs. She can barely walk 15 steps without having to stop and wait until the pain goes away. She has no insurance to get these fixed. She doesn't qualify for Obamacare or medicaid and isn't old enough for medicare. I hate seeing her in so much pain. I wish so much i could help her in some way. She also has a tumor at the base of her spinal cord. No one will help us... we have applied for every medical assistant program we have found. I am so afraid she is going to have a aneurysm and/or die before we can get something done. OMG I need her so much. My dad shit on me when i was 7. So she is all i have and ever had.
My sister is a career meth head. In and out of prison. Almost forty years old and has nothing.... nothing. My mom and her husband was trying to help her get on the right track for the umpteenth time, sold her a car so she could go and get a job and try to live life right. Well her new boyfriend wrecked it about a month ago, driving too fast on a back road and hit a family head on going around a curve. Guess what.... they didn't have insurance. They also didn't register the d**n car in their name either.... so my moms husband is on the hook for it. He already got a letter from a lawyer. He wont be able to pay.... this situation feels hopeless....
Now my brother has been a piece of work too. He also is sorry, but for no reason. Just lazy. He has been his whole life. He has "had intercourse with" over my mom and cussed her out and treated her badly for years. He was lent a car from my mom to go to work with while he was living at her house and one day he didn't come home.... car gone and all his shit. He knew the arrangement and he took advantage of the situation. He is still driving around a year and half later and avoids all calls and communication attempts. He basically stole from his own family. That's the worst low one could reach in my book. To take advantage of someone that has helped in every way they could, repeatedly, and then to slap them in the face like that is a new low. But that's not his only concern in life either. He is sick. Been sick for awhile now. With the most bizarre symptoms. Bleeding from the eyes and ears, staph, yellowing of his skin, and numerous other crazy things. Well he was just diagnosed with advanced HIV two weeks ago. Breaks my heart for him and my momma. He isn't dealing with it well from what my sister says. I haven't spoken to him in at least two years. I don't see him conforming to the treatment or trying to make things as good as it be for himself. He always wallows in self-pity, he always has. I'm scared he may take his life. I want to talk to him and to have a relationship but is so awkward now. Between is diagnosis and the fact I cussed him out over a fb chat the last time we talk. (I had to tell him about mom in ICU with a heart attack, and he responds to the chat "hows she doin?" Really.... he didn't feel the need to call or come up there... she was only in ICU....) so I let him have it. And not sorry for that... but it adds to the stress of that situation.
Now for my husbands side of the family..... geesh.....
About five years ago or so, my mother in law basically forced her mother to marry a man she didn't know very well at all. I think it was attempt to not have to take care of her. Well guess what.... that didn't work out. Mimi was unhappy and wanted to leave, so then she moved in with my mother in law. I love my mother in law, I truly do, but she is a difficult person. Her and Mimi clashed a lot while she was there. My Mother in law wanted to put her in a nursing home. I was against it.... she just needed somewhere else other than there... so that's when my sister in law stepped in and took her,( I think to spite her mother, that's for a different post) Sister in law is another post for a different day, she is areal piece of work too... She isn't the stable place Mimi needs. And now neither one will answer our calls or anything. I'm worried about her. She is 86, basically living in a one room apt with no close friends around and cant go outside because the dogs. what a way to live the rest of your life.... your daughter wants to give you away for the second time and your not quite right granddaughter Miminaps her to live a life of solitude....
I got more, but we can start there.... any insight or advise will be appreciated.
First thing going on is my Mom's health. She had three heart attacks in nine days a few months ago. They placed a stint and its working great. Problem there is we know she has other blockages in her legs. She can barely walk 15 steps without having to stop and wait until the pain goes away. She has no insurance to get these fixed. She doesn't qualify for Obamacare or medicaid and isn't old enough for medicare. I hate seeing her in so much pain. I wish so much i could help her in some way. She also has a tumor at the base of her spinal cord. No one will help us... we have applied for every medical assistant program we have found. I am so afraid she is going to have a aneurysm and/or die before we can get something done. OMG I need her so much. My dad shit on me when i was 7. So she is all i have and ever had.
My sister is a career meth head. In and out of prison. Almost forty years old and has nothing.... nothing. My mom and her husband was trying to help her get on the right track for the umpteenth time, sold her a car so she could go and get a job and try to live life right. Well her new boyfriend wrecked it about a month ago, driving too fast on a back road and hit a family head on going around a curve. Guess what.... they didn't have insurance. They also didn't register the d**n car in their name either.... so my moms husband is on the hook for it. He already got a letter from a lawyer. He wont be able to pay.... this situation feels hopeless....
Now my brother has been a piece of work too. He also is sorry, but for no reason. Just lazy. He has been his whole life. He has "had intercourse with" over my mom and cussed her out and treated her badly for years. He was lent a car from my mom to go to work with while he was living at her house and one day he didn't come home.... car gone and all his shit. He knew the arrangement and he took advantage of the situation. He is still driving around a year and half later and avoids all calls and communication attempts. He basically stole from his own family. That's the worst low one could reach in my book. To take advantage of someone that has helped in every way they could, repeatedly, and then to slap them in the face like that is a new low. But that's not his only concern in life either. He is sick. Been sick for awhile now. With the most bizarre symptoms. Bleeding from the eyes and ears, staph, yellowing of his skin, and numerous other crazy things. Well he was just diagnosed with advanced HIV two weeks ago. Breaks my heart for him and my momma. He isn't dealing with it well from what my sister says. I haven't spoken to him in at least two years. I don't see him conforming to the treatment or trying to make things as good as it be for himself. He always wallows in self-pity, he always has. I'm scared he may take his life. I want to talk to him and to have a relationship but is so awkward now. Between is diagnosis and the fact I cussed him out over a fb chat the last time we talk. (I had to tell him about mom in ICU with a heart attack, and he responds to the chat "hows she doin?" Really.... he didn't feel the need to call or come up there... she was only in ICU....) so I let him have it. And not sorry for that... but it adds to the stress of that situation.
Now for my husbands side of the family..... geesh.....
About five years ago or so, my mother in law basically forced her mother to marry a man she didn't know very well at all. I think it was attempt to not have to take care of her. Well guess what.... that didn't work out. Mimi was unhappy and wanted to leave, so then she moved in with my mother in law. I love my mother in law, I truly do, but she is a difficult person. Her and Mimi clashed a lot while she was there. My Mother in law wanted to put her in a nursing home. I was against it.... she just needed somewhere else other than there... so that's when my sister in law stepped in and took her,( I think to spite her mother, that's for a different post) Sister in law is another post for a different day, she is areal piece of work too... She isn't the stable place Mimi needs. And now neither one will answer our calls or anything. I'm worried about her. She is 86, basically living in a one room apt with no close friends around and cant go outside because the dogs. what a way to live the rest of your life.... your daughter wants to give you away for the second time and your not quite right granddaughter Miminaps her to live a life of solitude....
I got more, but we can start there.... any insight or advise will be appreciated.
