Post by blueblood1905 on Jan 3, 2017 20:31:05 GMT -5
People may find this stupid, but I really like a girl who I've been friends with for over a year. The thing people may find stupid is that we only know each other online. We've Skyped and stuff (with and without others present). I know that a lot of people won't understand, but I've never had any romantic experience outside of with her (whose name is Hala), so I do feel strongly about her.
So, in November of 2015, I told her how I felt, and as expected, I got turned down, but I was cool with it, because it didn't really change our friendship too much.
About a month later, something pretty big happened. It affected me very heavily, and whilst I don't really feel like recalling what happened, I will say that it made us stop talking for a short while.
About halfway through 2016, I no longer had romantic feelings for Hala. I still thought that she was great, and although I don't remember exactly how I went about it, I did mention that I no longer had those feelings to her.
Slowly, but surely, those feelings came back, and as of writing this, I like her a lot.
So, we're friends, but I find her hard to talk to. Sounds strange, right? Well, it is. I don't know what it is, but each time we talk, I feel as if she isn't too interested in the conversation. It's clear that she does still consider me a friend, since she does start conversations with me often enough to be friends, but I feel as if I usually f**k up when keeping her interest. This all started about 4 months ago, I suppose.
I just find it so hard to keep her interested, and I feel like this is a problem with me more than it is with her, since I've seen her concersations with other people due to us being in the same chatroom as each other, and they're completely different. Our messages are short, and our conversations are usually just as short.
Does anybody have any advice? If it helps, I'm 18 years old. Thanks for showing interest.
So, in November of 2015, I told her how I felt, and as expected, I got turned down, but I was cool with it, because it didn't really change our friendship too much.
About a month later, something pretty big happened. It affected me very heavily, and whilst I don't really feel like recalling what happened, I will say that it made us stop talking for a short while.
About halfway through 2016, I no longer had romantic feelings for Hala. I still thought that she was great, and although I don't remember exactly how I went about it, I did mention that I no longer had those feelings to her.
Slowly, but surely, those feelings came back, and as of writing this, I like her a lot.
So, we're friends, but I find her hard to talk to. Sounds strange, right? Well, it is. I don't know what it is, but each time we talk, I feel as if she isn't too interested in the conversation. It's clear that she does still consider me a friend, since she does start conversations with me often enough to be friends, but I feel as if I usually f**k up when keeping her interest. This all started about 4 months ago, I suppose.
I just find it so hard to keep her interested, and I feel like this is a problem with me more than it is with her, since I've seen her concersations with other people due to us being in the same chatroom as each other, and they're completely different. Our messages are short, and our conversations are usually just as short.
Does anybody have any advice? If it helps, I'm 18 years old. Thanks for showing interest.
