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Post by sav on Dec 31, 2016 3:01:15 GMT -5
Okay. I'm really struggling and if there is someone who reads this that is Mormon your advice would be wonderful. I am a 16 yo girl and when I was 14 my friends were having a dirty joke battle and I didn't know what some of it meant so I started looking it up. One thing lead to another and I started masterbating and I would read inappropriate literature, I never watched porn... if a website had a bad picture I clicked out right away. There was one video that was for education purposes because I didn't know like anything and stupid me was curious but it showed inappropriate things. Since this is such a taboo topic I was never taught that what exactly I was doing was bad (this is really against the church's standards) and after a few months I learned that it was and I stopped. I prayed and asked for forgiveness and never did it again since. However, I don't know if I should tell my bishop and stuff to fully repent. No one has ever really taught me the steps of repentance and so I need someone with a little more knowledge than me to tell me if me praying and stopping was enough or if I need to confess or whatever. Please help.
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Post by Ask Anon on Dec 31, 2016 4:25:47 GMT -5
I'm afraid I'm not a Mormon, but here's my two cents anyway ...
This isn't about what you did, it's about how you feel about it.
I think that a little curiosity in a teenager is perfectly normal, and utterly harmless. And you are probably better off now that you know some of the facts of life. But you feel guilty about it.
So you need to do what you feel is right to ease your guilt. You need to talk to your parents, or to someone in the Church, to find out what's appropriate. You don't necessarily need to tell that person what you've done, unless it turns out that's the right thing to do. But you need to talk to someone.
It won't be easy, but guilt never is.
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Post by sav on Jan 1, 2017 4:51:33 GMT -5
Thank you for your advice. The only thing is I don't really know how I feel about it. I'm completely fine 99% of the time but every once in a while it just pops up in my head and I wonder if I handled it correctly. I feel like if I hadn't that I would feel worse about it more often but I don't so I don't know if I am just having off nights or if it's something I should worry about.
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Post by Ask Anon on Jan 1, 2017 5:48:47 GMT -5
Here's the thing.
This all happened two years ago, and it still causes you anxiety. Isn't it time you put it all behind you and moved on?
There's a choice of ways; one is through the church, the other is doing what I'd guess 80%+ of other Mormons do - and probably 95% of the wider population - realise that what you did was perfectly 'normal', and move on. I know your church is strict, and I have no intention of debating a subject I know I don't know enough about. But curiosity really isn't a sin. Plus it's been shown that Utah has one of the highest uptakes of Internet pornography. Go figure!
You need to do what you think is the 'right thing' - but you mustn't allow this kind of anxiety to hang over you; it'll affect your friendships and your trust. And that's much more serious, in my book!
Good Luck!
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