Post by shirahime on Jul 30, 2016 7:49:10 GMT -5
What should I (female/19/atheist) do? My ex-best friend (female/21/muslim) accused me of something I didn't do.
My ex-best friend was angry at me for saying that I think that she's doing everything to be liked by a guy.
For example: some random muslim guy wrote her a message on Facebook that she should remove her profile photo because some guys might try to curse her and then she will never get married. She of course did what he wanted and removed her picture immediately.
I thought that was ridiculous because she didn't even know that guy personally. She however said that it has something to do with her religion and not because of that guy. I know her and she really does everything muslim men tell her just to be liked by these guys. I just think that she shouldn't be like that because the right muslim guy will like her the way she is.
Then she tried to convince me that curses and ghosts are real. Which is silly to me because I do not believe in such things. She was very angry so she stopped the conversation and blocked me on whatsapp.
After 3 weeks she suddenly wrote me that she felt insulted. I told her that it was just my personal opinion. After that she blocked me again.
So I've decided to not keep up with her behavior anymore and unfriended her on Facebook. Then she blocked me on Facebook (by the way she uploaded a new profile photo of her face, so she probably didn't liked that guy anymore or she wanted to meet new muslim guys).
After a few days I got a text from her she asked me if I was pranking her. I texted back that I have no idea what she is talking about. Then she asked me if I created a fake account to add a muslim man on her friends list and if I told him lies and rumors about her (I can't even click on her profile because she blocked me so her accusations were just stupid and when we were Facebook friends her friends list was private/hidden from everyone). I wrote back that she is acting ridiculous and blocked her because I've just had enough of her blaming me for something I didn't do.
The next day she started to call me I didn't pick up the phone because I really didn't see the point of talking to someone like her anymore.
Then she wrote a mean text message to me. She wrote that I was a coward and that I am a heartless person and that I should be ashamed of creating so many fake profiles (I used to have ONE fake profile but that was a while ago and I've only created it because she wanted me to send a friend request to a guy she liked at the time which I didn't even do in the end so I've quickly deleted that fake profile because it just felt wrong). Then she wrote that I shouldn't be surprised that I don't have friends because I am even worse than an enemy (I struggle with social anxiety so I have a very hard time making friends), then she wrote that she doesn't want to hear from me ever again.
I wrote back that she should calm down and that I have nothing to do with that stupid prank. I also wrote that she should blame herself instead of other people because she writes with so many muslim men and that they are probably talking about her because of that. She falls in "love" every day with someone new and then gets her heart broken.
I'm not sure if I should try to talk to her again. I don't feel guilty because I have nothing to do with that prank and I'm not going to apologize for something I didn't even do. I just don't know what to do.
She also changed a lot. She was always very religious and wore hijab and didn't drank alcohol and prayed a lot.
But recently she started to become very interested in the salafi movement and even texts with salafi men she also started to wear a different kind of islamic clothing (jilbab and khimar). I'm just worried about her but I guess I can't really help her anyway. And to be honest she probably wouldn't even accept me anyway if she knew that I am gay (I'm still in the closet).
Now I'm asking you guys what should I do? Should I just leave her alone and move on with my life or should I try to reconcile the friendship?
By the way I'm very sorry for the long text and I know my english is very bad
My ex-best friend was angry at me for saying that I think that she's doing everything to be liked by a guy.
For example: some random muslim guy wrote her a message on Facebook that she should remove her profile photo because some guys might try to curse her and then she will never get married. She of course did what he wanted and removed her picture immediately.
I thought that was ridiculous because she didn't even know that guy personally. She however said that it has something to do with her religion and not because of that guy. I know her and she really does everything muslim men tell her just to be liked by these guys. I just think that she shouldn't be like that because the right muslim guy will like her the way she is.
Then she tried to convince me that curses and ghosts are real. Which is silly to me because I do not believe in such things. She was very angry so she stopped the conversation and blocked me on whatsapp.
After 3 weeks she suddenly wrote me that she felt insulted. I told her that it was just my personal opinion. After that she blocked me again.
So I've decided to not keep up with her behavior anymore and unfriended her on Facebook. Then she blocked me on Facebook (by the way she uploaded a new profile photo of her face, so she probably didn't liked that guy anymore or she wanted to meet new muslim guys).
After a few days I got a text from her she asked me if I was pranking her. I texted back that I have no idea what she is talking about. Then she asked me if I created a fake account to add a muslim man on her friends list and if I told him lies and rumors about her (I can't even click on her profile because she blocked me so her accusations were just stupid and when we were Facebook friends her friends list was private/hidden from everyone). I wrote back that she is acting ridiculous and blocked her because I've just had enough of her blaming me for something I didn't do.
The next day she started to call me I didn't pick up the phone because I really didn't see the point of talking to someone like her anymore.
Then she wrote a mean text message to me. She wrote that I was a coward and that I am a heartless person and that I should be ashamed of creating so many fake profiles (I used to have ONE fake profile but that was a while ago and I've only created it because she wanted me to send a friend request to a guy she liked at the time which I didn't even do in the end so I've quickly deleted that fake profile because it just felt wrong). Then she wrote that I shouldn't be surprised that I don't have friends because I am even worse than an enemy (I struggle with social anxiety so I have a very hard time making friends), then she wrote that she doesn't want to hear from me ever again.
I wrote back that she should calm down and that I have nothing to do with that stupid prank. I also wrote that she should blame herself instead of other people because she writes with so many muslim men and that they are probably talking about her because of that. She falls in "love" every day with someone new and then gets her heart broken.
I'm not sure if I should try to talk to her again. I don't feel guilty because I have nothing to do with that prank and I'm not going to apologize for something I didn't even do. I just don't know what to do.
She also changed a lot. She was always very religious and wore hijab and didn't drank alcohol and prayed a lot.
But recently she started to become very interested in the salafi movement and even texts with salafi men she also started to wear a different kind of islamic clothing (jilbab and khimar). I'm just worried about her but I guess I can't really help her anyway. And to be honest she probably wouldn't even accept me anyway if she knew that I am gay (I'm still in the closet).
Now I'm asking you guys what should I do? Should I just leave her alone and move on with my life or should I try to reconcile the friendship?
By the way I'm very sorry for the long text and I know my english is very bad
