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Post by dana222 on Jul 25, 2016 18:54:30 GMT -5
My ex boyfriend and I broke up 5 months ago. We were together for half a year. He told me when he broke up with me that he never loved me. This 5 months I tried moving on but, I still love him. We haven't talked after the break up till one month ago.We started fighting and he told me if I was good enough he could've loved me. Two weeks I can't stop dreaming about him saying those words and about things I could've done better. I blame myself even though I know he never loved me. How can I move on and stop blaming myself?
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Post by Ask Anon on Jul 26, 2016 6:04:05 GMT -5
You don't say why you broke up, or what you think you did wrong.
It's clear, however, that he's a jerk who enjoys your pain.
Nothing you've said explains why you're obsessing over him.
Has this happened before? Do get dependant on boyfriends?
Why do you think that is?
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Post by dana222 on Jul 26, 2016 6:08:11 GMT -5
You don't say why you broke up, or what you think you did wrong. It's clear, however, that he's a jerk who enjoys your pain. Nothing you've said explains why you're obsessing over him. Has this happened before? Do get dependant on boyfriends? Why do you think that is? He just finshed it because it got serious. It never happend before because I never cared for someone like I cared for him. |
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Post by Ask Anon on Jul 26, 2016 10:26:39 GMT -5
He just finshed it because it got serious. It never happend before because I never cared for someone like I cared for him. If that's true; he just didn't want to commit - how can that conceivably be your fault? People don't always do what you want, and you can't make 'em. Some people - like your ex-jerk - like to use people and move on. You can't control that; all you can do is learn to recognise the signs, and choose more carefully. We've all been used at one time or another - very few people don't have a relationship that feels like it failed. But don't beat yourself up over something that isn't your fault. What's the point of that? And while you're wasting your time and emotions on someone who has made it clear he doesn't want what you want, you aren't even noticing as the good guys go by. Time wake up and smell the coffee. |
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Post by Gina99 on Jul 26, 2016 20:19:17 GMT -5
He told you that you weren't good enough to love. That is very hard to deal with. That is why you are obsessing. I don't know why you decided it would be a good idea to talk to him again unless you thought you could change his mind and get him to love you. Let him go. He really has a problem if he gets off on blaming you for his lack of love.
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