Post by zeraus on Jul 16, 2016 2:03:45 GMT -5
So there's this girl who I met my freshman year of college. She was a junior at the time--now recently graduated. We were part of a larger group of friends, one of which was a guy I ended up falling in love with.
After telling him how I felt, he later rejected me, which I tried to be okay with for the sake of the group, but when I found out he'd been in a relationship behind my back and had my friend keep it from me, I blew him off, thus tearing us all apart. Anyway, getting off topic.
Even though I don't talk to him or his gf (another ex-friend of mine btw...) anymore, I've been trying to keep in touch with my friend--the topic of this thread. Of course, I never expected her to choose between us because that's immature, but over time it's becoming increasingly clear to me that she has a preference for his company over mine.
I've been trying to make plans with her all summer but she keeps blowing me off saying she's busy. However, she always seems to have time for her f**k buddy and for my ex-crush. How convenient.
I actually just saw a snap of her hanging out with him and some mutual friends having a great time, when meanwhile she knows I'm sitting home by myself bored and lonely. The funny thing is, she doesn't even know I saw it. She's clearly trying to hide this from me for some reason, like she's aware that I'd be upset if I saw. (And she would be correct.)
I know she lied to me about how long she knew of his relationship. She once left me stranded at the train station because instead of coming to get me she went to hang out with him for the weekend. She always likes his posts on facebook but doesn't give mine a second glance.
I guess some of this sounds petty, but I feel very neglected and I'm starting to question if this "friendship" is worth the depression it's causing. But on the other hand, she's one of the only friends I have left, and we have lots of great memories together...
I'm thinking of confronting her about it but she hates confrontation, and I'm worried that if I try, I'll get carried away and end it right then and there. I don't know what to do.
After telling him how I felt, he later rejected me, which I tried to be okay with for the sake of the group, but when I found out he'd been in a relationship behind my back and had my friend keep it from me, I blew him off, thus tearing us all apart. Anyway, getting off topic.
Even though I don't talk to him or his gf (another ex-friend of mine btw...) anymore, I've been trying to keep in touch with my friend--the topic of this thread. Of course, I never expected her to choose between us because that's immature, but over time it's becoming increasingly clear to me that she has a preference for his company over mine.
I've been trying to make plans with her all summer but she keeps blowing me off saying she's busy. However, she always seems to have time for her f**k buddy and for my ex-crush. How convenient.
I actually just saw a snap of her hanging out with him and some mutual friends having a great time, when meanwhile she knows I'm sitting home by myself bored and lonely. The funny thing is, she doesn't even know I saw it. She's clearly trying to hide this from me for some reason, like she's aware that I'd be upset if I saw. (And she would be correct.)
I know she lied to me about how long she knew of his relationship. She once left me stranded at the train station because instead of coming to get me she went to hang out with him for the weekend. She always likes his posts on facebook but doesn't give mine a second glance.
I guess some of this sounds petty, but I feel very neglected and I'm starting to question if this "friendship" is worth the depression it's causing. But on the other hand, she's one of the only friends I have left, and we have lots of great memories together...
I'm thinking of confronting her about it but she hates confrontation, and I'm worried that if I try, I'll get carried away and end it right then and there. I don't know what to do.
